K Tempest Tumbles

I'm K. Tempest Bradford, a writer, blogger, tech geek, and all around nerd. I'm such a big science fiction/fantasy/speculative fiction fan that I even write it (I know, pretty hard core!).

I have a non-Tumblr blog and that's where the majority of my long-form posts go. This blog is for my more fannish activities, link sharing, and squeeness.
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did you know you can’t “POP your cherry”?  In this video i talk about:

what the hymen really is
how this myth is some sexist bullshit
and how to deal with your hymen the 1st time you have sex.


She is amazing.

I’m exceptionally pissed off that this is news to me.

I’m really fucking pissed off that I did not know this and it’s my own goddamned body.

I had a freaking kid and didn’t know this.

The only reason I knew this is because of the sex talk with my Mom I had about six months ago. It’s awful how many women don’t know this about their own bodies.

They need to teach this shit in sex ed. 

I’m now viewing the teachers who taught me the Hyman bullshit a bit differently…

I mean, FUCK this is logic! I actually always thought it was weird to think that there was a supposed COMPLETE covering of the vagina…I actually had a hard time imagining it.


I love this chick. She needs to teach ALL the sex ed.

Didn’t you guys learn about this when you first learned about your periods? 

Because I sure did.

Still, signal boost.

so, wow. I’m actually kind of pissed off, because before this I really didn’t have much of an idea of what the hymen is, and I think I’ve finally just realized how shitty the sex-ed at the high school I went to is, because they didn’t teach this stuff.

You want to know what they teach in sex-ed in a small, conservative, 99.9% white farm town? Guys have a penis, testicles, and something called a foreskin (there might have been more, but it was so long ago I’ve forgotten). Girls have a big hole called a vagina. You aren’t supposed to put them together until you’re married, but if you do (but you’re not supposed to), and you don’t want to get pregnant or spread STD’s, you’re supposed to use a condom. After that, they show us a video of a woman giving birth to scare us away, tell us all this shit about how men work (I distinctly remember learning that wearing briefs keeps the testicles closer to the body, which keeps the sperm too warm and reduces fertility. a lot of guys in my class declared loudly that they were going to ‘let it hang’ and wear boxers after learning that). We learned almost nothing about the female body, other than that we have a vagina, uterus, fallopian tubes, and ovaries. the basics.

I didn’t learn what a clitoris or a vulva or any actual part of the vaginal opening actually was until I got curious and looked it up online myself. So now I’m really, really pissed off.

Guys, I spent my teenage years in a small town in Greece. 

There was no sex ed.

Let me repeat that - 

There was no sex ed. Nothing. Not one single thing. Not even ‘this is a penis, it does stuff.’ NO mention of ANYTHING about human reproduction.

So yeah. 

Thank Christ for the Internet because honestly, I don’t know what I would be thinking without it.

Now imagine how bad it would have been for a gently-reared girl in the 19th century, who, in theory, would only have gotten “the talk” from her mother, possibly as late as THE NIGHT BEFORE HER WEDDING.

I gave my fictional bride a slight advantage in that she’d done some “practice kissing” with other girls, but she was still pretty confused about her “maidenhead” and what was up with that. Lucky for her, she had a much older and more experienced husband, who paid a lot of attention to making sure she enjoyed things as much as possible. (Enlightened self-interest; he wanted her to develop enthusiasm for it!) She still didn’t have much vocabulary for parts, which made writing from her POV interesting, let me tell you. If she’d had the internet? She’d have been ALL OVER that.

EVERYONE. Everyone.

Read Hanne Blank’s book “Virgin: The Untouched History” which Hanne wanted to subtitle  “Why Everything You Think You Know About Virginity Is Wrong.”


Yes, read that book now. Give it to the young women in your life. or the old women, middle aged women, and women of indeterminate age.

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